The core/thesis: ’Why’ is never a proper question; replace with ‘how’ and/or ‘what’ question(s) instead.
Change would be changing you/yourself first - always.
The ‘Why’ trap
Makes you a victim of your environment and of others.
Asking ‘why’ in response to events, circumstances, and encounters with people.
The ‘Victim’ trap
Why do people react negatively?
Our reaction(s) to people or events cause the stress we feel.
Instead, the right question is: What can I do to be more relate able? or How can I set the example?
The ‘Change’ trap
Why do I have to change?!?
Instead, the question should be: How can I change to set the example for others?
You don’t have control over others; rather, you have influence over others.
"Get Over You University" - serve and give first, be selfless.
The ‘Communication’ trap
Why don’t they tell me what’s wrong or what they want?!?
Rather, the way better question: How can I take the time to learn them and their responses to things better?
Become a questioner instead of an orator.
- Observe, Ask, Listen without interruptions, & maintain eye contact
The ‘When’ trap
So, why are we going to … ?
Replace with this question: What can I do to get a goal(s) and hit it/them?
What example(s) am I setting? What goals can we set together?
The ‘Who’ trap
Who’s responsible for that?
- Finger pointing
Way better: What can I, or we, do about it?
Accepting responsibility for anything on my watch is the mark of a leader.
A huge lesson to learn & apply > If it isn’t your fault, you give away all power to fix it/do something right.
The ‘They’ trap
Why aren’t they helping me (more) ?!?
What do I need to do to take leadership from me forward? It all starts with me; learning & growing myself is the crux.
- Setting the example.
- Being an encourager.
- Be the inspiration.
Consistently, happily, joyfully drive forward :)
We don’t tend to grow up ‘attitudinally’ enhanced.
Credit for the content in this blog post goes to Mr & Mr. Larry VanBuskirk; they co-recorded an audio that taught this material, and I felt it so important and impactful, I am proud to share it here in the blogosphere. Blessings!